Thursday, 21 July 2016

I've started - can you help me finish?

Dear Rabbi . I have been in touch with a colleague of yours in the Union for Progressive Judaism as I am living in Australia.

They advised me to get in touch with you re conversion requirements.

I have done an on-line course with an organisation based in the U.S.A but I don't know if it's the real thing.

I haven't been before a bet din (Jewish court) there or been to a mikva (ritual bath), but I have done all the study modules.

Sorry to trouble you but I am anxious to convert in a way that will be acceptable and allow me to become an active member of the Jewish community in Australia.
 
Hi Jessica,

Can you send me the overview of the modules and study that you have done?

Also have a look at the questions I have sent you.  If you feel you can answer these confidently then it would suggest you have done the basic 'academic learning' we require. If not, we'll need to arrange some topping up.  If you'd like to try to answer them as best you can, using work and learning you've done, plus books and internet, then I'm happy to review them to identify what we'd need to do.

In particular it would be useful for you to get an overview of progressive Jewish concepts in our region, for which I recommend our course book 'A Judaism for the Twenty-First Century'  which I adapted from the British Progressive movement. You can get it on line from Amazon or I can get one sent to you for Au$25 plus postage (call the office to order by credit card +61 3 9819 7160).

Before you go before the Bet Din you will also need to take an 'Inventory' for which you'll need to go in to one of our congregations and complete a paper without books, internet etc.  There is no pass mark for this but it does give us an idea of how much you actually have retained in your mind as opposed to in notes - for example what is the Hebrew year; what is the next main festival?

And before this, you'll also need to be able to read hebrew - hebrew gives access to Jewish ritual such as blessings.  This is because the Inventory asks you what certain blessings are for - easy ones, except that it writes them in hebrew, so you won't be able to answer unless you can decipher them!

I assume that you learned to read hebrew as part of the American course, but if not you'll need to find a Hebrew course, or else I have written a self-teaching, self-checking hebrew primer called 'Hebrew from Zero'.   Again you can get this on-line or we can send it to you for Au$20 plus postage, or if you get both books we will waive the postage charges.

Before the Bet Din you will also need a relationship with a congregation, and to have attended regular shabbat services as well as festivals, and in particular the main ones including Passover Seder and High Holydays.  You will need your own copy of our prayer book (Siddur) called Mishkan T'filah - World Union Edition. You will be able to get this from the congregation if you do not yet have one.  It costs $65.

I do apologise that this looks like a list of extra costs - that is not my intention and I have minimised the costs as much as possible.  What I am trying to do is to assist in completing your conversion by a recognised and reputable Bet Din in the shortest appropriate time frame.

You might also be interested to know that we hold a Shabbat weekend in December here in Melbourne, specially aimed for those going through the Introduction to Judaism course.

Please feel free to contact me with further questions. 

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Jonathan

Tuesday, 21 June 2016

It doesn't sound as if a Progressive path is the right one for you at present!


Hello

I have just found the information about the online course from the google search. I was wondering if this is the course that allows the conversion for non jews,  and whether i can be allowed to convert after taking your course.

Debora


Hi Debora,

Our Introduction to Judaism course​ gives the 'academic' knowledge required for conversion through the Bet Din of the Union for Progressive Judaism, Australia, New Zealand and Asia.  Our conversion is accepted by Israel for immigration, but not recognised by the interior ministry for marriage etc.  As you probably know, they only accept some (and not all) orthodox conversions!  This means you will need to be civilly married outside Israel - this is then recognised as a legal marriage!

In addition to the academic course, you will need to develop a relationship with a congregation in Israel, and a 'Sponsoring' Rabbi, will need to be able to read hebrew, and, if you were male, you'd need brit.  

I am not sure if there is any advantage to you in undertaking our on-line course compared to enrolling in an Israeli Progressive congregation's conversion group.  You have not said where in Israel you are living, whether you have an Israeli partner, and if so, whether they are involved in a Progressive congregation or willing to be?  It would also be useful to know a bit more about your background, work and motivation to explore conversion, and if you are planning to remain permanently in Israel or, if not, what your timescales are.

L'shalom

Rabbi Jonathan



Thank you Rabbi,

I would like to undertake a course of conversion to Judaism. I have always been drawn to it and I am half Jewish. I am currently residing in Israel to fully experience a Jewish life.

 I lived in a secular environment, and never undertook any religious education. I remember having some Jewish friends in childhood and spending time in their homes. As well as I saw my grandmother from my father's side lighting Shabbat candles.
I recently lived in remote areas of the world, and only about 5 years ago I was able to visit synagogue and make contact with Jewish communities.

Somehow I started to become very interested in Judaism. Most importantly I had not fully been able to join a synagogue, as I had no documents that I am a Jew, as they requested my parents ketubah and so on.

The Jewish communities I have experienced are very hesitant to accept any strangers.  There are also many reasons of why I could not join, being distance from the synagogue as I was living too far away, and financial reasons. For various reasons very slowly I started to feel a Jewish identity, I started with attending festivals only and reading online.  

 I was interested in a conversion program, but the ones available were reform in my nearest city, and some other reform ones on line. For this reason I decided to come to Israel and live a full Jewish life that was unavailable to me at home.

Now free from any obligations I had to fulfill all my life, I want to spend remaining years studying Judaism and becoming a fully observant Jew.

I am now living in Bnei Brak where I can fully observe life as a Jew. I have Jewish friends, and though I am very limited by language, as I don’t speak Hebrew, I also attend English lectures at Chabad Institute Or Chaya in Jerusalem. I visit the orthodox shule, but they had no religious education for beginners. I have attended Shabbat dinners at my friends’ homes. I follow the laws of kashrut and Shabbat.  
Recently I was thinking why had I spent 30 years of not following Judaism and also of why Jews were sent to exile to different parts of the world.  We were told in the lectures of Or Chaya this was so they could spread Judaism to different parts of the world and gain converts. I believe it was a miracle that happened from God that I was able to come to Israel and so far see things I was only able to dream about. I feel now more than ever I am ready to become a full Jew and undertake a course in Judaism.  

I responded:

Hi again Debora,

Thanks for your response to me earlier questions.

I am pleased to hear that you have made your way to Israel, and I am sure that in due course you will find what you are looking for there.

Your various comments indicate to me that me are not able to help you.  

 I was interested in conversion program, but the ones available were reform in my nearest city and some other reform on line. For this reason I decided to come to Israel and live a full Jewish life that was unavailable to me in Australia.

Now free from any obligations I had to fulfill all my life, I want to spend remaining years studying Judaism and becoming fully observant Jew.

I am now living in Bnei Brak where I can fully observe life as  a Jew. I have Jewish friends, and though I am very limited by language, as I don’t speak Hebrew, I also attend English lectures at Chabad Institute Or Chaya in Jerusalem. I visit the local orthodox shule, but they had no religious education for beginners. I have attended Shabbat dinners at my Jewish friends’ homes. I follow the laws of kashrut and Shabbat.  

In particular it is your wish to be what you call a 'fully observant Jew', living in Bnai Brak and attending Chabad, as well as your comments about Reform in your nearest city and on line.

I am a Progressive Rabbi and you have enquired about a Progressive Introduction to Judaism course.  Progressive is an umbrella term for 'Reform, Liberal, Reconstructionist, modern' Jews, and indeed Progressive Judaism, who run the course, is part of the Union for Progressive Judaism, which in turn is our regional part of the World Union for Progressive Judaism (WUPJ).

The WUPJ is headquartered in Jerusalem (just down the hill from The King David Hotel and YMCA), and is the largest synagogal body in the world. 

We believe that Progressive Judaism offers the opportunity for a Jew to live a modern life on the modern world, with a meaningful spiritual framework, and recognising the equality of the sexes, and celebrating the fact that all humans are created in the image of God, whether Jewish or Muslim or Christian or atheist, whatever colour, whether straight, gay or transgender.  These are not beliefs you will find widely shared within other parts of Judaism!

Given that you have made the move to Israel, and apparently the decision to recover your Jewish family tradition, and appear to be on the road to become orthodox or ultra-orthodox, I would think your best path would be to enroll on a religious kibbutz which has entered the 'conversion industry'.  This will immerse you fully in the life - and you will be able to decide whether this is really how you want to spend the rest of your life. If so, you can get all the tuition and an orthodox conversion there within six months or so, I believe. they will probably also help find a husband...

You should however be aware, if you follow that path, that some years ago they created a new rule - these conversions are only valid in Israel - if you leave Israel they may not be considered valid - ie you lose your Jewish status if you move back to Australia (or anywhere else).  This happened to Paula Cohen, who moved to the UK, and this 'geographical qualification' is unprecedented within Jewish tradition.

I hope that is of use to you.  I will disguise your identity and put this correspondence up on our blog so that others may read and learn from it.  

I wish you good luck in your journey, and if I can be of further assistance, please let me know.

L'shalom

Rabbi Jonathan Keren-Black 

Monday, 4 April 2016

What if my partner's family are orthodox?

Is there really much difference between Progressive Judaism and orthodox?

Dear Rabbi,
I have been married for 10 years. My wife is Jewish but I'm not. In the time we've been together I have become very interested and enjoyed the Jewish festivals and customs and foods - except for chulent (slow-cooked meat/bean stew!). Faith means a lot to me and I do want to convert. We want to start a family in the next few years and I would like to raise my children believing in something. Even though my wife is from an orthodox background they are not practising and I don't feel like I would fit in there.  So it seems that converting within Progressive Judaism would be much more appropriate to our lives and needs.

Rabbi Jonathan responds:


That sounds a sensible response, but you'll need to understand that some in the orthodox community, though not necessarily very (or at all) observant themselves, still consider themselves (and orthodoxy) superior to progressive Jews!

We even have a name for them - 'SONO' as in Strictly Orthodox - Non-Observant! (which is of course impossible!).

Let's try an unpack this further:  Many Jews in Australia (and UK, South Africa) are members - or at least their family were members - of orthodox synagogues.  They may consider themselves 'orthodox' - but, if they don't go to shul regularly, if they drive on shabbat, if they use money on shabbat, if they eat in regular (not exclusively kosher ones) restaurants, they are not orthodox - the best that they could argue is that they are 'selectively orthodox'!  Unless they believe that God dictated Torah to Moses, and it is therefore 'true', they are not orthodox.

My experience is that most members of orthodox synagogues believe in God as an inspirational power or support or solace in their lives, and that the Torah is not to be taken literally as God's word.  They may prefer a traditional service, all in hebrew, with no organ and only men leading and singing.  But they are not regular synagogue attenders, they will happily wear shorts or bathers or bikinis, and married women do not keep their heads, arms and ankles covered. In the rest of their lives they recognise that women have abilities at least equal to men, can be university professors or judges or surgeons, and that they can listen to a female singer without lusting after her (orthodoxy considers a woman's voice is her nakedness).  They may not always gather for Friday night, with full kiddush and Birkat Hamazon (grace after meals), and probably do not usually - or ever - conclude Shabbat with Havdalah on Saturday evening.  They probably believe that ethical behaviour is more important than rituals - and are probably proud of Israel's achievements, feel a connection and pride, but also concern with some of the challenges that Israel faces, not least from the part of the ultra-orthodox community who don't even recognise the State of Israel's authority.

In other words, in most regards, these members of orthodox synagogues have much more in common with Progressive Jews than with truly observant and serious orthodox Jews!

We really have some significantly different ideas from orthodoxy as you'll see in the second half of our reader 'Judaism for the Twenty-First Century'. Key differences are that a) We REJECT the idea that God wrote Torah - instead we believe humans wrote it, trying to answer the question 'What does God want us to be and do?  (which they inevitably answered for their own time and context, over 2500 years ago).
b) We REJECT the idea that the Temple should be rebuilt.  This would mean a return to animal sacrifices (which we don't believe God wants or needs), priests (we have done without them for 2000 years, and Rabbis, chosen for their wisdom and learning, have replaced them), and centralisation in Jerusalem (Judaism is today democratic and localised - wherever there are Jews, there is a Jewish community with its own leadership, interpretations and traditions). Of course it would also not go down too well with the Muslim world since the Dome of the Rock and Al Aksa Mosque now stand on the Temple Mount!
c) we believe in EQUALITY - that all are created equal - men and women, Jews and non-Jews, heterosexual, homosexual, gender-fluid... we all reflect 'the image of God' in our diversity.
d) We accept a child as Jewish if they have a Jewish mother OR a Jewish father - and a Jewish upbringing (reflecting biblical as well as Rabbinic periods of Jewish history).  This means YOU DON'T HAVE TO CONVERT. We'd love you to, and we'll help you, but it should be for your own reasons and conviction, not for any family reasons or pressures.
e) Our services are shorter and in English and Hebrew, and hopefully more accessible and understandable, and families sit together.

It is worth bearing in mind that, though we are a dynamic and active minority in Australia (http://upj.org.au/) Progressive Judaism is the largest grouping of synagogues in the world (http://wupj.org/).

However, because orthodoxy does not accept our Rabbis as Rabbis, it therefore does not accept those who convert with us as Jewish.  This means you will not be accepted as Jewish by the orthodox authorities - and, if you were female, they therefore wouldn't accept your children either.  You will inevitably therefore become involved in a power struggle! We believe we are legitimate, and indeed that we are part of the developing, progressing understanding of Judaism, the world and God's wishes for us within it.  The orthodox Rabbinic position is that only they are authoritative, and the guardians of true Judaism.  Of course if you look back 100, 1000, 2000 or 3000 years, it is quite apparent that Judaism - and indeed every religion, is changing and developing, in response to worldwide experiences and understanding, as filtered through its own traditions and scholarship, but this is not an argument anyone is going to win any time soon (within Judaism, Christianity, Islam or any other religious tradition.  They all have their orthodox and their progressives, but uniquely, we have a powerful Progressive Jewish movement, already 200 years old!).  

Because of these differences, it is important for you to have your partner's understanding and support - and hopefully also that of her family, though this may take time.

It is also useful if your own parents understand the process, if they are around, and they are always welcome to come along and visit a service with you at any time. Discuss and explain your rationale and the process with them if possible.  Remember that it may seem as if you are rejecting the faith they brought you up in (if any - or secularism or atheism!). 

Good luck!  L'shalom

Rabbi Jonathan

Monday, 1 February 2016

I spent time on kibbutz and would like to become Jewish but my husband is Christian

I am 29 years old and I was brought up in the Uniting Church but stopped believing a long time ago. My husband is an Anglican and we have a 2 year old son. I have read many books over the years on all sorts of topics including Judaism. I have previously spent many years in industry. I live in XXXX and have visited the nearby synagogue though I have not been to a synagogue on shabbat before. I have been interested in Judaism for many years and used to be a country member of the Makor Jewish library.  I can read a little hebrew and when i was 18 I stayed on a kibbutz in Israel for an adventure which had a lasting impression.

Hi Annie,

Thanks for your background information.  

Let me say from the outset though that the Introduction to Judaism course is not the same as converting.  The synagogue near you is Chabad - which means not just orthodox but very orthodox in their practice and belief. They will not recognise me as a Rabbi, or any of our converts as Jews.  The nearest regular Progressive synagogue can be located by visiting UPJ.org.au.  To convert you'd need to have established a relationship with a community who would recognise and support your journey.  You'd also need a 'Sponsoring Rabbi' (which could potentially be me as course supervisor) and learn to read hebrew, and if you were male you'd need to be circumcised.

You should also take any opportunity to go along to any synagogue, for example when you are travelling or on holiday, to widen your experiences - though it is advisable to contact them in advance during the week, and bring along a drivers licence or other proof of identity as, sadly, we all have to be very security-conscious these days.

When starting this journey, it is important to understand that, whilst our underlying belief in One unique, caring, loving, forgiving Creator, and our obligations to God and to each other as human beings, and to God's world, are common between orthodox and Progressive Judaism, in practice, expectation and belief we vary widely.  The difference goes a long way back, and stems from our understanding of Torah.  'Orthodox' belief is that God gave the Torah, word by word, and it is therefore fundamentally true and inerrant.

Progressive Jews (Reform, Liberal, Reconstructionist etc) believe that humans wrote the Torah, albeit 'divinely inspired' and trying to answer the questions 'What does God want of us? How should we act, behave, practice and raise our children?'

The last point, on raising children, is particularly pertinent in your case.  You say your husband is Anglican, but not whether he is practicing.  We have a problem in creating 'mixed families', in part because of the different traditions and expectations, and in part because of the confusion it can cause to children.  Whilst we wouldn't want to stand in the way of any individual developing their personal framework for life and relationship with God - and ultimately becoming Jewish - we would want to be confident that it was going to work for the household.   For example we may want to talk to your partner or at least have a letter to state that they are supportive of the journey to you becoming Jewish - and we'd want clarity about how the children are to be brought up - will it be as Jews, who know they have a Jewish parent and a Christian one, or as Anglicans who know they have a Jewish parent and a Christian one, or as 'both', so they can 'choose for themselves' (we don't think the latter is really likely or even possible).  

I hope that these responses are helpful and informative, and will no doubt give you food for further thought.  However, I'd like to conclude by reiterating that we believe Progressive Judaism offers a rich and wonderful framework for a modern and meaningful spiritual life, and we'll do all we can to assist if you do wish to continue on this path.

L'shalom


Rabbi Jonathan 

Thursday, 10 December 2015

When to say 'Shabbat Shalom' (A Peaceful Sabbath)

When to say 'Shabbat Shalom' (A Peaceful Sabbath)

People wish each other 'shabbat shalom' instead of 'goodbye' in the day or so leading up to Shabbat - meaning 'when shabbat comes, have a good one'.  It is wrong, however, to say 'shabbat shalom' as 'hallo' until it is actually shabbat!

Wednesday, 3 June 2015

What are Progressive Judaism's Teachings on a range of ethical issues?


I recently received this question from a school student trying to write an essay - such questions arrive quite regularly, and I try to answer them, but not in more detail than will be of interest or use to them.  My answers represent my views, not 'Progressive Judaism as a whole' (since such views do not exist in a formal form, though there is extensive responsa (questions and researched answers) from Progressive as well as Conservative and traditional perspectives): 

What are Progressive Judaism’s teachings on the ethical issues of:
-          Genetic engineering and cloning
-          Organ transplants and organ donation
-          Euthanasia and Suicide
-          Stem Cell Research
-          Capital Punishment
-          Abortion


Judaism believes that humans work in 'partnership with God' ('Shutafut') to improve or perfect the world ('Tikkun Olam').  Progressive Judaism is generally in accordance with Judaism in general, except that we sometimes push for change before orthodoxy has found a way (or a desire) to move (like conservative attitudes in general).

However these are specialist areas and I am not a specialist.

I will try to briefly address your questions:

On Genetic engineering and cloning

I don't believe there is a principle Jewish objection to engineering new plant breeds, plant resistance etc.  we believe that God has given us intelligence and ability to do science, medicine etc  Plant development, hybrids, mixtures have been known since biblical times and are not outlawed.  There is even a story about Jacob using selective breeding with his father-in-law's herds.  

I think the concern will be with damaging other people's crops, health risks of inadequate testing (the commercial pressures and powers seem to be more important than adequate long term testing and this is unjust, and therefore wrong from a Jewish perspective).

The bible is familiar with asses, which are hybrid animals (product of horse and donkey, and always sterile) and I don't believe there is any criticism, certainly no prohibition about breeding them. 

However Judaism puts humans in a discrete category - 'above the animals but little lower than the angels'. We are obligated to care for animals and look after them (even feed them before ourselves).  Yet we are different.  So we would I think be very concerned about human cloning.  Yet if cloning body PARTS for the sake of healing, that would be welcomed - ASSUMING THOROUGH SAFEGUARDS.  Because we value saving human life above almost everything else.

But of course there are huge ethical issues here and consequently huge bodies of study and consideration of if, when and how these matters should be allowed within Judaism.  But, at least from a Progressive perspective, we believe that God's will is continually being revealed (we call this 'Progressive Revelation') and it is through a process of study, learning, consideration, philosophy etc etc.  So if there is a full public debate, and religious inputs are considered seriously along with others, we would probably accept the result as 'humanity's best understanding of God's will on the matter for the time being'.

-          Organ transplants and organ donation

It follows from the above that these are both OK as they are 'saving life'.  Progressive Judaism has always said so.   Because the body is seen as 'God's creation' and 'God's property' there has been some resistance in orthodoxy ('the body should be buried intact, not desecrated') and this was shown in Israel, where orthodox Judaism is influential in the legal system - but over the past generation it has been allowed within orthodoxy and hence in Israel as well.  There was a news story not long ago about 'Jewish organs being given to save the life of an Arab Muslim' but as far as we are concerned all life is equal, and this was a wonderful story, even though it stirred some people's racist proclivities!

-          Euthanasia and Suicide

If the body belongs to God, and only God gives life, then, according to tradition, only God can take life as well.  Suicides did happen, but were considered a sin, and would be buried on the edge of the cemetery. Often, traditional rabbis and families might argue that the person didn't intend to kill themselves, they weren't in their right mind, or they changed their mind in their last moments but it was too late.

I and I suspect most Progressives (and many traditional Jews) would accept that sometimes life seems too miserable, painful or difficult, and people kill themselves for a variety of tragic reasons.  We should see it as the failing of society, of us, their friends, family and community, if blame is to be distributed in a situation where blame is not very helpful!  I have a friend who killed himself for quite 'logical' reasons some fifteen years ago, and the passing time has not proven that he was wrong in wanting to provide materially for his family - though I would hope that he could have worked through it and achieved a similar goal whilst remaining alive.  But sadly neither I nor anyone around him and close to him picked up that this was likely to happen.    

Euthanasia is a bit different.  Today with modern technology and medicines we are able to keep people alive long after they want to be, or are able to be an active and functioning part of society.  They may have a perfect right to death, but not be able to kill themselves.  I think it is inhumane to keep people alive in such circumstances, or when they face a death sentence from a terminal illness.  To me it seems bizarre that we 'put down' our beloved pets, or racehorses who break a leg, but won't help loved ones who beg to be helped to end their lives.

Traditional Judaism prohibits euthanasia.  Yet it says you should not disturb a body that is about to die with water on the lips or a loud noise, and thereby delay the departing of the soul (life).  I and I imagine most progressive and other Jews would say that euthanasia should be available in very specific and limited circumstances, provided absolute safeguards are in place.  Even those who argue against often do so on the basis of adequate safeguards, but this should not be beyond our wit and ability!     

-          Stem Cell Research

Don't see any problem with this as above, medical research to save lives etc.

-          Capital Punishment

The bible is full of death penalties (eg for lighting a fire on sabbath).  Yet it is important to understand that that was meant to be a deterrence, and is of its time and context - around 3000 years ago.  Judaism (as all religions) change and develop (Progressive Revelation even though that is a Progressive term!) as humanity does.  The Rabbinic period (officially starts about the time of Jesus, 2000 years ago) was in many ways quite different to the early and even latter biblical periods (since there was no Temple, no sacrifices, no priests after the Roman destruction in 70 Common Era).  The Rabbis said that a Jewish Court that gave a death sentence once in 7 years was known as a 'Murderous Court' - and one Rabbi said 'even once in 70 years'!  Certainly the rabbis introduced so many warnings and checks that it was virtually impossible to carry out a death penalty.

Since the end of the War of Independence in 1948, the modern State of Israel has carried out only one execution, of one of the Nazi leaders, Adolf Eichman.  That can be seen as the exception that proves the rule, especially considering so many Israeli civilians, women and children have been murdered in cold blood by terrorists who have been caught and brought to trial.  

So I am against the death penalty and I imagine that is a fair comment for virtually all Progressive Rabbis and most Jews in general today. 

-          Abortion

Abortion is allowed by traditional Jewish law in one particular case - when the mother's life is in danger from the baby.  This is called a 'rodef', a pursuer.  It is based on the idea that if a person is pursuing you to kill you and the only thing you can do to save yourself is to kill them first, you are allowed to do so.

It is not allowed in general and certainly not as a form of 'late contraception'.  I think this is generally right, though I think there are exceptions - for example if a woman has become pregnant after being raped (I suspect traditional Judaism would say the same).

Today we can do ante-natal checks and many serious health problems can be identified.  I think aborting an early term foetus is different from a viable baby (traditional Judaism makes this distinction as well, though in their terms a baby has not proven itself fully 'viable' until it is a month old - so until that time you would not do a full funeral or mark the grave).  However, who chooses what is a 'major' health problem?  (See the case of the Downs syndrome surrogate twin in 2014).  Today some people are aborting female babies, or ones with the 'wrong colour' eyes!  Clearly this is completely wrong.   But we had an amniocentesis on our baby as my wife was nearly 40, and at the time we were quite clear that we would abort if there was a significant problem indicated.  Thankfully we now have a handsome and lovely 16 year old! 

I think 'women's choice' (Pro-Choice) argument is sometimes false and dangerous.  This ignores the rights of the life within her.

On the other hand the 'Pro-Life' lobby in the US who don't allow for it in any case, even rape, are also wrong in my opinion.

Jewish teaching teaches us to 'Choose Life' and I think this would be well applied on this question (a happy combination of Pro-Choice and Pro-Life).  Yes, there are elements of choice (though not by the woman alone).  When supported by family, friends, police, medics, psychologists, the choice of abortion may be possible.  But, considering the trauma and guilt which many women still feel years and years after an abortion - and which the woman at the time may not be able to imagine or give consideration too - and the many childless couples desperate to adopt and love a child, I think the best counsel in most cases is to have the child - not allow ready abortion - which at the end of the day some would see as very similar to murder - and to ensure adequate support (even financial) so that the mother has the choice, over time, of what she does with the baby.      

So I hope this is of some use to you.

L'shalom

Rabbi Jonathan Keren-Black

Wednesday, 1 April 2015

Healthy lesbian looking for Judaism

Dear Rabbi,

I have been interested in Judaism since I was a girl.   Another Passover is coming, and I wonder what I am missing out on.

I am, as labels go, a forty year old dyke.   I have had HIV for ten years, but thankfully my health is good.

Forgive me, as I don't really know what I want from Judaism, but I can never really forget it - some deep longing for something Jewish.   These thoughts and feelings, as I have discovered, never really go away. In regard to my old age and death, I don't know what I believe.

I did write to a rabbi many many years ago, and he suggested coming along to the congregation.  I didn't think that's what I wanted at the time, partly on the grounds of being gay, education, and financial status. I have had two gay Jewish friends over the years, but unfortunately both have since died of AIDS-related diseases.   I more recently contacted Aleph Melbourne, and was told again to speak with a Rabbi - the Leo Baeck Centre being suggested. As to fitting in, I don't know where there would be a place for me.  

I suspect you have had some letters like this in the past, and I am aware of your online program. If you have any advice, I would be grateful.

Kind regards,

Sandra

Dear Sandra,

Many thanks for writing - and for persevering.  Instead of missing another Pesach, why don't you come and join us on Friday night for our communal seder?  If you are available, call the office (9-2) and see if we can squeeze you in - tell them you've spoken to me.

Progressive Judaism is a great framework for the modern world.  And of course we see all people as equal, created 'in the image of God' whatever their colour, creed, gender or sexual orientation.  Most people fit in quite comfortably - we have people of all shapes, sizes, orientations - including gay, lesbian, transgender - just like the real world!

You should come along to some services - you are always welcome, 10-12 every Saturday, 37 Harp Road East Kew.

If you are comfortable with the services, then by all means come and speak to me about 'life, the universe and everything' and we can explore the best way forward.

You might also like to look at my blog at http://progressivejudaism.blogspot.com.au/.

Judaism puts more emphasis on living this life as best we can, on achieving our 'God-given potential', than on 'the world to come', and Progressive Judaism even more so.  If there is anything else, the best way to prepare is to be the best we could in this world!

I look forward to meeting you,

L'shalom

Rabbi Jonathan